Relationships are difficult. Truth be told, with the current “microwave” mindset, we have seen more and more short-lived romances. Divorce is becoming commonplace and there is little value in “toughing it out” or “working through things”. Have you ever had the opportunity to listen to a couple who had been together since what seems like the dawn of time? Have you ever encountered a couple who have been married for over 40 years but still looks at, and talks to each other as if they have found the most wonderful thing in one another? THAT is Pragma love. These couples have no doubt been through it but have come out on the other side. Dealing with any one person for a considerable amount of time will always lead to conflict because no two individuals think the same. The commitment and maturity found in this type of love is what makes the difference.

Pragma love will express itself in its consistent efforts. Pragma love makes the daily choice to work with their partner and works on building the love. Pragma love seeks to understand. Most of all, pragma love is not looking for a replacement nor is willing to settle at “irreconcilable differences”. Pragma love focuses on adapting, restructuring, restoration and reconciliation in conflict. Pragma love is found in the little things and completely embodies each love language.

This enduring love is what hopes and dreams are made of. It is represented in romantic movies and is hard to find in real life but lasts a lifetime. This is the love that looks into each other’s eyes after 60 years and says, “I still chose you!”.

“Unconditional love is not a deed. It is a state of being”